A Mother on a Spiritual Path

A mother is always a mother. And, as strong as this may sound, she is sometimes also the one who, unknowingly, passes on to her children limitations, fears and conditionings that shape their growth and freedom of expression.

Every thought, every emotion and every gesture of a mother reaches the child in a profound way, touching not only his mind but his emotional world as well. And this does not always happen in a positive light. Children, especially between the ages of zero and seven, are genuine sponges: just as they learn to eat, walk and talk by observing the world around them, they also learn through non-verbal communication and absorb everything that belongs to the subtler dimensions of life.

And in the subtle there is far more than we are accustomed to imagining.

I therefore believe it is essential for a mother to undertake a genuine spiritual path. Not a path built on illusions or abstract theories, but a concrete journey that allows her to look at herself honestly, to understand her inner mechanisms and to transform what does not truly belong to her essence.

Very often we believe we are simply ourselves, yet in reality we carry within us patterns, beliefs and programmes handed down across generations: from mother to daughter, from family to family, all along the family tree.

At times, then, a mother is not only a mother. She is also the sum of the stories, experiences and identities that preceded her and that continue to live through her, until she consciously chooses to interrupt that current and to live according to her own true nature.

My spiritual path began with Ileana Rotella. Drawing on her knowledge in the esoteric field, her studies, her experience and her natural gift for "joining the dots", she developed the Quantum Touch Releasing® (QTR) technique. Through her and her method I was given the extraordinary opportunity to learn to look inward with different eyes. I began to release judgement towards myself and towards those who came before me, understanding that every generation did what it could with the tools it had. I discovered, with genuine wonder, that I can make a difference for all my predecessors and that, through this work, my family tree, past and future, has the chance to flourish.

This inner work has allowed me to improve my own life and, in turn, that of the people I love, beginning with my son.

An entire system of limiting beliefs, deeply rooted across generations, does not dissolve with the snap of a finger. It requires commitment, consistency and the willingness to face what surfaces. Yet every step forward is a real victory.

Along the way I have confronted limiting patterns connected to success, money, romantic relationships, the role of women, motherhood, learning and personal fulfilment. I identified beliefs that were holding back my growth and that, quietly, were shaping the kind of mother I was.

When these mechanisms begin to come clearly into view, a spontaneous question arises: how can one go on letting them run unchecked? For one's own wellbeing and for the wellbeing of one's children, there comes a moment when it is necessary to say: "Enough. I choose life, I choose to be something else, I choose to simply be myself."

Through QTR®, this process of transformation has become simpler and more natural for me. It calls for presence, responsibility and continuity, but the results do come.

What is most surprising is that the change does not manifest only within us. Often the first sign comes from our children themselves: we see them suddenly calmer, more confident, more cooperative, more ready to step out into the world. It then becomes clear that by freeing ourselves from old burdens, we also give them permission to simply be who they are.

The greatest gift a mother can give her children is precisely this: to do the inner work, so that they may grow more free.

Nicoletta Pertosa